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Online dating service

Online dating or Internet dating is a personal introductory system whereby individuals can find and contact each other over the Internet to arrange a date, usually with the objective of developing a personal, romantic, or sexual relationship. Online dating services usually provide unmoderated matchmaking over the Internet, through the use of personal computers or cell phones. Users of an online dating service would usually provide personal information, to enable them to search the service provider's database for other individuals. Members use criteria other members set, such as age range, gender and location.

Online dating sites use market metaphors to match people. Match Metaphors are conceptual frameworks that allow individuals to make sense of new concepts by drawing upon familiar experiences and frame-works. This metaphor of the marketplace – a place where people go to “shop” for potential romantic partners and to “sell” themselves in hopes of creating a successful romantic relationship – is highlighted by the layout and functionality of online dating websites. The marketplace metaphor may also resonate with participants’ conceptual orientation towards the process of finding a romantic partner.[1] Most sites allow members to upload photos or videos of themselves and browse the photos and videos of others. Sites may offer additional services, such as webcasts, online chat, telephone chat (VOIP), and message boards. Some sites provide free registration, but may offer services which require a monthly fee. Other sites depend on advertising for their revenue. Some sites such as, and are free and offer additional paid services in a freemium revenue model.[2]

Some sites are broad-based, with members coming from a variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships. Other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired. A 2005 study of data collected by the Pew Internet & American Life Project found that individuals are more likely to use an online dating service if they use the internet for a greater amount of tasks and less likely to use such a service if they are trusting of others.[3]

An article provides a comparison of online dating websites.


  • Trends 1
  • From generalist OD websites to specialized ones 2
    • OD websites per type of desired relationship 2.1
    • OD websites per community membership 2.2
    • Matchmaking OD websites 2.3
      • Psychological matchmaking 2.3.1
      • Political matchmaking 2.3.2
      • Music matchmaking 2.3.3
      • Lifestyle matchmaking 2.3.4
      • Genetic matchmaking 2.3.5
      • Astral matchmaking 2.3.6
    • The OD websites according to the social situation 2.4
      • Specialization by profession 2.4.1
      • Specialization for elites 2.4.2
      • Specialization for students 2.4.3
      • Specialization by conjugal status 2.4.4
      • Meet an Inmate 2.4.5
    • OD websites according to sexuality 2.5
      • LGBT 2.5.1
      • Libertine 2.5.2
      • BDSM or fetishists 2.5.3
      • Barebackers 2.5.4
      • Cougar & toy boy 2.5.5
      • Manther & toy girl 2.5.6
      • Sugar daddy & Sugar babies 2.5.7
      • Sugar mama & gigolo 2.5.8
      • Virgins 2.5.9
      • Asexuals or platonic love 2.5.10
      • Machos 2.5.11
      • Feminists 2.5.12
    • OD websites based on physical criterion 2.6
    • OD websites for people with disease or disability 2.7
    • OD websites per age group 2.8
    • OD websites per geographic area 2.9
    • OD websites per meeting point 2.10
    • OD websites according the ways of dating 2.11
      • Standard Online dating 2.11.1
      • Mobile dating 2.11.2
      • Online matchmaking 2.11.3
      • Coached dating 2.11.4
      • Speed dating 2.11.5
      • Blind dating 2.11.6
      • Group dating 2.11.7
      • Virtual dating 2.11.8
      • Dating by exchange of correspondence 2.11.9
      • A card for a romantic rendez-vous 2.11.10
      • Charity dating 2.11.11
      • Slow dating 2.11.12
        • Generalist slow dating websites : outing and encountering
        • Slow dating websites specialized per kind of outing/activity
          • Having dinner and encountering
          • Hiking and encountering
          • Doing sport and encountering
          • Practicing foreign languages and encountering
          • Travelling and encountering
          • Housing tourists and encountering
  • Social networking 3
  • Problems 4
    • Self-branding and its effects 4.1
    • Pay dating business model 4.2
    • Abundance of information 4.3
    • Lies 4.4
    • Effects on dating 4.5
    • User problems 4.6
      • Discrimination 4.6.1
      • Misleading advertising 4.6.2
  • Comparisons in marriage health: traditional versus online first encounters 5
  • Government regulation 6
  • Online introduction services 7
  • Free dating 8
  • In popular culture 9
  • See also 10
  • References 11
  • Further reading 12


At the end of November 2004, there were 844 lifestyle and dating sites, a 38% increase since the start of the year, according to Hitwise Inc. However, market share was increasingly growing by several large commercial services, including,,, and By 2007, many prominent studies show that Baby Boomer interest in online dating have soared.[4]

The United States generated $957 million in revenue in 2008 from online dating services[5]

Recently, it has become common for online dating websites to provide webcam chats between members. As online dating's population becomes larger, sites with specific demographics are becoming more popular as a way to narrow the pool of potential matches.[6]

Successful niche sites pair people by race, sexual orientation or religion.[7] The 20 most popular dating sites in 2006 as ranked by Hitwise include (for Jewish singles),,, (same sex introductions), LoveFromIndia.ini,, (for Latino singles),, and (for Indian singles).[7] In March 2008, the top 5 overall sites held 7% less market share than they did one year ago while the top sites from the top five major niche dating categories made considerable gains.[8]

One of the "hottest trends in online dating" is the babyboomers on the top dating sites. Around 30% of America's 80 million babyboomers are single.[9]

Since 2003, several free dating sites, operating on ad based-revenue rather than monthly subscriptions, have appeared and become increasingly popular. Several newer sites such as are beginning to offer more full featured dating services for free, and are starting to compete with staples in the free dating site world such as Due to the level of competition between free dating sites, as well as the overall drop in traffic to and revenue for dating sites generally,[10][11] some sites are branching out into self-service advertising.[12] This represents a break from traditional externally sourced ads and is just one of the ways that the revenue models of free dating sites are evolving.

Especially popular in Eastern Europe, some sites offer full access to messaging and profiles, but provide additional services for pay, such as bumping profiles up to the top of the list, removing advertisements, making paying users' profiles appear several times in different places in the search results, and giving paying users a more advanced search engine to work with (in one example, free users may only search for persons of specified age, gender, orientation, and city, while subscribers may search for any and all parameters listed in profiles, such as height, weight, interests, etc.). Also, this model generally allows users to switch between free and paying status at will and without having to do anything, simply providing advanced features for a set period of time whenever the according payment is received. Ease of payment is also generally higher, with such sites accepting a variety of online currencies, letting users charge the payment to their cellular phones, etc. Such sites earn revenue from a mix of advertising and sale of additional options.

Online daters may have more liberal social attitudes compared to the general population in the United States.[13]

From generalist OD websites to specialized ones

Whereas some websites are for the general public, others pursue a niche strategy.

OD websites per type of desired relationship

OD websites may be specialized for romantic relationship (,,,, for sexual relationship (Adult, or for friendly relationship ([14]

OD websites per community membership

These websites target people who specifically look for a partner who is

  • by religion:
    • Christian :,[15] in France ; in Côte d'Ivoire ;,, in the USA.[14]
      • Catholic : in the USA.[14]
      • Protestant : in France.[14]
      • Mormons/LDS:[16] and in the USA.[14]
      • Adventist : and in the USA and in Canada.[14]
      • Jehovah's Witnesses :, and in the USA.[14]
    • Muslim :,, in France ; and in the world.[14]
      • Shias : and in the USA, in Canada, in the UK, in Pakistan and in India.[14]
    • Jew : and in France, in Russia, in the world.[14]
      • Orthodox Jew : in Canada, in the USA and in Israël.[14]
    • Bouddhist : in the USA.[14]
    • Wiccan : in the USA.[14]
    • sorcerer : in the USA and in the UK.[14]
    • pagan : in the USA and in the UK.[14]
  • by ethnicity
    • Afro-Descendant :,,, in France ; in the USA.;[14]
    • Asian people : and in France.[14]
    • Hispanic and Latino Americans : and in the world.[14]
    • from the Portuguese diaspora :[17] in France.[14]
    • Russians etc. In the latter case, a distinction is required between OD websites for Slavic people who want to meet other Slavic people and OD websites for non Slavic people who want to meet Slavic people ( and in France).[14]

Matchmaking OD websites

Matchmaking OD websites suppose that two people must share affinities if they consider a serious and long-term relationship. As classic OD websites sometimes suggest a list of singles who should be compatible given what they fulfill (age, sex, city, hobbies etc.), matchmaking OD websites offer a more detailed study.

Psychological matchmaking

Matchmaking OD websites (,,, and in France[14]) usually use theory on personality and matchmaking (religion, culture, interests, aspirations etc.) for suggesting members. The matchmaking service make members fulfill personality test, which can sometimes reach about one hundreds of pages, and suggest members who are likely to match.
The site is founded on the works of the German psychologist Hugo Schmale and the (subsidiary of on the studies of the American anthropologist Helen Fisher. According to the latter, there should be four types of personality : Explorers, Builders, Directors and Negotiators. Couples who are most likely to work are Explorer-Explorer, Builder-Builder and Directory-Negotiator (in the latter case, the two profiles complete each other).[18]

Political matchmaking

These OD websites are specialized for people from left-wing ( in France), right-wing (,[19] nationalists (, or ecologists ( and in France,[14] in the USA).[20] In the USA, there are also some OD websites for libertarians ([21]) or objectivists ([22]).

Music matchmaking

Some websites ([23] · [24] in the USA, in France) offer both music on demand service and dating service. The users can identify and contact those who listen to the same soundtracks and may even receive a list of singles who are supposed to match according to their musical preferences.

Lifestyle matchmaking

Some OD websites are specialized by subculture or hobbies : dating for

  • rockers, metalers, punks, gothics or emos :,[25] and[26] in France ;,,[27],[28],[29] · [30] and in the USA and in the UK.[14]
  • clubbers : in France.[14]
  • hipsters :[31] in Germany.[14]
  • tattoued : in Germany, in the UK, in the USA.[14]
  • Rastafari : in France, in the USA.[14]
  • hippies : and in France,[32] in the UK, in the USA.[14]
  • yuppies:[33][34] · [35] in the USA.[14]
  • geeks : in France,[36] in the USA[37] · [38] · [14] etc.
  • [14] .· [40]
  • naturists :[41] · .[14]
  • backpackers :[42] in the USA, in the UK and in India.[14]
  • globally minded people :,[43],[44],[45][46] · [14]
  • fans of outdoor activity : in the UK[47] · [48] · .[14]
  • fans of equestrianism :[49] and in the USA and in Canada ; in the UK.[14]
  • fans of golf : and in the USA.[14]
  • fans of fitness : in the USA and in the UK.[14]
  • fans of reading : the American website suggests to date people according to the tastes for reading[50] · [14]
  • fans of cannabis :[51] · [52] in the USA.[14]
  • bikers :[53] in France,[54] in the USA.[14]
  • cyclists : in the USA ; and in the UK.[14]
  • gamers : and in the USA ;[55] in the UK ; in France.[14]
  • animal lovers :[56] or[57] in France ;[58] or[59] in the USA. This ODSs have to be distinguished from « OD websites for animals », like[60] · [14]

Genetic matchmaking

These websites used the DNA to suggest singles (,[61][62] · [63] and[64] · [65] in the USA).

Astral matchmaking

The matchmaking is here founded on Western astrology ( and in France ; and in the USA), Chinese astrology ( in the USA, in Canada, in Australia and in France) or Tibetan astrology ( in France).[14]

The OD websites according to the social situation

Specialization by profession

OD websites for

  • sailors :[66] in the USA.;[14]
  • police officers or for soldiers : and[39] in France ; in the UK ; in the USA ; in Germany.[14]
  • firefighters : in France.[14]
  • flight attendants or flight crews : in the USA.[14]
  • health workers : and in France.[14]
  • teachers : and in France.[14]
  • farmers / breeders / cowboys :[67] and[68] in France ;, and in the USA ; in the UK.[14]

Specialization for elites

OD websites designed for

  • higher education graduates :[69] and[70] in France ;[71] in Germany, in Austria and in Swizerland ;[72] · [73] in the UK ;
  • for the rich and beautiful : in Germany,[79] connects beautiful women with people who earn more than 100 000 euro a year.[80] In the USA, is intended for very wealthy individuals and claims « Our members include CEOs, pro athletes, doctors, lawyers, investors, entrepreneurs, beauty queens, fitness models and Hollywood celebrities ».[81]

It is important to clearly distinguish elitist OD websites from online elitist dating agencies (,,[14]) or also from elitist social network sites ([82]).

It should be noted that a distinction must also be made between elitist OD websites and « high-range » OD websites like[83] On the site, where furthermore the inscription works by cooptation, the conditions to entry concern less the social situation than the seriousness of the singles in their will of building a relationship.[84]

Specialization for students

The site[85] is for students or alumni.

Specialization by conjugal status

Whereas non-specialized OD are for singles, other OD are specialized for married persons ( and in France ; in the UK, in the world[86] · [87]), divorced with children ([58] in the USA,[88] in France) or widowed individuals ([89] in France ; in the UK and in the USA).[14]

Some OD websites are designed for polyamorous people[90] ([91] · ,[92], and in the USA [14]) or for polygamists[93] ( ; see also the OD websites for the Muslims or the Mormons).

The will of getting married and/or building a family is mainly emphasized on the OD websites specialized by religious communities ( and in France ;, the Indian OD website focused on religious and intracaste marriages). Nevertheless, marriage is also emphasized on the OD for Eastern Europe women (, in France), or on Chinese OD websites ( Furthermore, it is worth noting that is intended in India for those who do not want to get married by the dowry system.

Certain sites underline the will of building a family without evoking marriage : this is the case of[94] in Denmark or in France. Conversely, some websites are designed for « childfree[95] » ( in France, in the USA).

There is also OD websites intended for people who are looking for sperm/oocyte donnor-recipients (See Coparenting, LGBT parenting) :[96] in France.

Meet an Inmate

There are some websites which make it possible to correspond with an incarcerated person :,[56] · [97] or in the USA ; in Canada.[14]

OD websites according to sexuality

The specialization of OD websites is also done according to sexuality in each one :


OD websites for LGBT ( / in the world), or more specifically for gays ( and in France ;, and in the USA), lesbians ( in France ; in the UK ; in the USA), bisexuals ( in France, in the USA), transsexuals ([98] in France, [99] in the USA) ; bears ( in France).[14]


OD websites for libertines ( and in France) and more specifically for swingers or threesomers ( and in France) ; candaulists ( ; gang bangers ( and[100] in France).[14]

BDSM or fetishists

OD websites for BDSM or fetishists : in France ;, and in the USA, in Canada and in the UK.[14]
OD websites for ABDL:[101] in France ;, and[102] in the USA.[14]


Cougar & toy boy

OD websites for Cougar & toy boy:[88] in France ; and in Belgium ; in Switzerland.[14]

Manther & toy girl

OD websites for manther[104] & toy girl[105] · :[106][107] in France ; [for gays] in the USA.[14]

Sugar daddy & Sugar babies[108] and[109] in France ;,,[110] · ,[111][112] and[113] · [114] in the USA.[14]

Sugar mama & gigolo

OD websites for sugar mama[115] & gigolo :[116] and in the USA.[14]

Virgins[117] in France.[14]

Asexuals or platonic lovers[118] and in France ;,[119],[120] and in the USA ; in the world.[14]

Machos in France.[14]

Feminists[121] in France.[14]

OD websites based on physical criterion

There are specialized dating website, whether you are beautiful ([122] in France ;[123] in the USA), ugly[124] ([125] in the USA and in the UK,[102] in France,[56] in Belgium), fat ([126] in France, in Germany), BBW[127] ([128] in France, in the UK, and in the USA), BBW & BHM[129] ( and in the USA), SSBBW[130] ( in the UK), little ( in the USA[52]), tall ( in France, in the USA) or hairy ([14] in France).[14]

In the USA and in the UK, the website is intended for men with penises over seven inches.[131] · [132]

The website suggests you to find your ex-partner's double[133] · [134] · .[135]

OD websites for people with disease or disability

Some OD websites are intended for people living with sexually transmitted infection ([136] and in France ; in the USA ; in Canada ; in the world[137] · [138]).

Other websites are designed for people with disabilities ([139] and in France ; in Belgium ; in Canada ; in the UK ;, and in the USA) ; or more specifically, for paraplegics ( in the USA), amputees ( in the USA), or the deaf and hard of hearing ( and[140] in France ; and in the USA) but also for singles with food allergies ([141] in the USA).[14]

There are also OD websites destined to people suffering from intellectual disability like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD), personality disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), dissociative disorder (DD) or eating disorder ([142] in the USA,[143] in Canada) ; autism and Asperger syndrome (AS) .[14]

In France, the website is targeted to individuals with Down syndrome.

OD websites per age group

Some websites are focused on dating for teenager,[144] other for seniors ( in France ; and in the USA).[14]

OD websites per geographic area

Some websites extend their services per geographic area. [145]

OD websites per meeting point

The American site is intended for those who want to meet at the airport.[146]

OD websites according the ways of dating

The OD websites differentiate themselves according the way of dating they invite the users. Before the dating, there may be a first contact online (standard online dating, mobile dating, epistolary OD websites, card dating, virtual darting, ) or not (slow dating, group dating, speed dating, blind dating). Arranging the appointment can be direct (standard online dating, mobile dating) or intermediated (coached dating, online matchmaking, speed dating, blind dating, slow dating, group dating, charity dating).

Standard Online dating

OD websites generally refer to standard online dating (on,, in France[14]): on his computer, the user registers on the website, looks for profiles which are likely to appeal to him, makes the first contact, which, if it is conclusive, leads to the arrangement of an appointment.

Mobile dating

After the development of the Web 2.0 in the 2000s, the mobile web has in turn boosted the dating market in the 2010s. The standard websites like Badoo, PlentyofFish, Zoosk, Lovoo or OkCupid offer a mobile version or an application to download of their OD services, like the new actors exclusively on smartphone: Tinder (generalist) or Grindr (gay). Mobile dating proposes exchange of instant messages or pictures but also and above all geolocation so as to singles nearby should be able to make connections.[147]

Online matchmaking

Unlike standard OD services, a matchmaking service is proposed (on, or in France[14]): the users reply to a questionnaire and are suggested a set of profiles supposed to match. Theses affinity-based OD websites differ from matrimonial OD services, with wich a meeting between the single and the matrimonial agent is arranged before the matchmaking between singles. However, the difference is not always obvious. On the American OD website, the registrants cannot contact each other directly: only the website matchmakes singles according to supposed affinities.

Coached dating

The OD websites users may have recourse to a dating coach ([148] · ,[149][150] and[151] in the USA ;[152] and[153] · [154] · [155] in France):[14] the services provided range from the identification of the OD service where to register to the arrangement of a first date and include the user profile management: choosing the username, making and selecting the pictures, writing the pick-up line and the advertisement etc. In the USA, the website makes it possible to check whether the single have a criminal record.[156]

In the UK, the dating site[157] · [158] enables the coached dating to be initiated by a family member, a friend or a colleague.

Moreover, it should be noted that the websites like[159] · [160] permit the internaut to submit his pictures to the visitors.

Not a long time ago, various websites were available on the Internet with access to valuable tips on how to find a partner, and especially focused on how to find women. Dating Internet services have expanded and are now offering many more services to make it easier for people to find a partner.

In June 2010, The Washington Post published an article on a new service Internet dating companies are offering: online dating assistants. Dating companies offer the services of ghostwriters to help busy people find dates via the Internet.

The services start by helping customers build their profile, a practice already offered by several online dating sites. However, the service continues with picking out potential matches, the writer then sends introductory e-mails to the possible matches and continues messaging back and forth until they can confirm the date. Although the service was used at first mainly by men, this has changed with more women using this service as well.[161]

Some of the larger online dating assistance and matchmaking companies include and, which guarantees dates to a worldwide clientele base.

This kind of service has been considered as misrepresentation and, thus ethically questionable, by those against it.[162] However, some companies inform the online match that messages are being sent “on behalf of” a client.

Speed dating

Speed dating consists in bringing previously selected people together for a short duration, typically seven dating of seven minutes.[163] Amongst host websites with highest audience,[14] there are and in France,[164] in Canada,[165] and in the UK, and[166] in the USA.

Blind dating

The company organize a «

  • Pew Internet & American Life Project study of online dating in the United States

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  16. ^ LDS = Latter-day Saints
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See also

  • You've Got Mail, a 1998 film in which the two protagonists conduct a relationship entirely over e-mail before meeting each other
  • Napoleon Dynamite, a 2004 film in a which one subplot involves a central character's online (and later in-person) relationship
  • Euro Trip, a 2004 film in which the central character has a relationship wholly via email with a girl from Berlin
  • Must Love Dogs, a 2005 film about two people trying to find love through online dating
  • Because I Said So, a 2007 film in which a mother creates an online dating profile for her daughter
  • Sex Drive, a 2008 film about a young man who goes on a cross-country roadtrip with friends to meet his internet crush, and woo her with his brother's stolen GTO.
  • Jewtopia, a play which revolves around Jewish dating service
  • Love Translated, a 2010 documentary film in which a group of men travel to Ukraine on a romance tour arranged by online dating service AnastasiaDate.

In popular culture

Other partially free online dating services offer only limited privileges for free members, or only a brief free period; generally, advanced features such as virtual gifts are available to paying users only.

Most free dating websites depend on advertising revenue, using tools such as Google AdSense, affiliate marketing. Since advertising revenues are modest compared to membership fees, free dating sites require a large number of page views to achieve profitability. However, Sam Yagan (founder of and current CEO of describes dating sites as ideal advertising platforms because of the wealth of demographic data made available by users. "You give us data, we give you dates", says Yagan.[269]

Free dating

In 2008 a variation of the online dating model emerged in the form of introduction sites, attracting a large number of users and significant investor interest.[268] Introduction sites differ from the traditional online dating model, where members have to search and contact other members, by introducing members to other members whom they deem compatible, thus claiming to eliminate much of the mayhem of traditional online dating. Although the two introduction services operate differently and offer different features, both claim to be more effective than traditional online personals.

Online introduction services

There are several sites that already offer the option for users to request background checks including is now offering screenings for sex offenders to their users.[267]

New Jersey became the first state to enact a law requiring the sites to disclose whether they perform background checks.[266]

[265] Singapore's [264] Singapore's government has actively acted as a matchmaker for singles for the past few decades, and thus only 4% of Singaporeans have ever used an online dating service, despite the country’s high rate of internet penetration.

In the People's Republic of China, transnational matchmaking is illegal.[260] The Republic Act 6955 (the Anti-Mail-Order Bride Law) of June 13, 1990; this law is routinely circumvented by basing mail-order bride websites outside the country.[261][262][263]

U.S. government regulation of dating services began with the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act (IMBRA)[259] which took effect in March 2007 after a federal judge in Georgia upheld a challenge from the dating site European Connections. The law requires dating services meeting specific criteria—including having as their primary business to connect U.S. citizens/residents with foreign nationals—to conduct, among other procedures, sex offender checks on U.S. customers before contact details can be provided to the non-U.S. citizen.

Government regulation

The emergence of dating sites who promote adultery, such as, stirred some controversy. Marriage breakups happened in about 6% of online couples, compared to 7.6% of offline ones. Mean marital satisfaction scores were 5.64 and 5.48 for the online and offline couples, respectively.

According to a study commissioned by and conducted by a paid scientific adviser to the company, more than a third of marriages between 2005 and 2012 began online, and these marriages tend to be happier and longer than marriages of offline couples. The study did not determine why this was the case. The study was conducted by social neuroscience expert John Cacioppo. Cacioppo examined the results of a 19,131 person survey about their marriages and satisfaction. Respondents of the survey who met online tended to be somewhat older (30-39), employed, and with a relatively higher income. The results were published in the paper "Marital Satisfaction and Breakups Differ Across Online and Offline Meeting Venues”, in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. The results of the study suggest that the Internet and social networks may be altering the dynamics and outcomes of marriage.[258]

Comparisons in marriage health: traditional versus online first encounters

In 2014, the US Federal Trade Commission fined UK-based JDI Dating (a group of 18 websites, including and[255] over $600000, finding that "the defendants offered a free plan that allowed users to set up a profile with personal information and photos. As soon as a new user set up a free profile, he or she began to receive messages that appeared to be from other members living nearby, expressing romantic interest or a desire to meet. However, users were unable to respond to these messages without upgrading to a paid membership. Membership plans cost from $10 to $30 per month, with subscriptions generally ranging from one to 12 months. The messages were almost always from fake, computer-generated profiles — 'Virtual Cupids' — created by the defendants, with photos and information designed to closely mimic the profiles of real people."[256][257] The FTC also found that paid memberships were being renewed without client authorisation.

In 2014, It's Just Lunch International was the target of a New York class action alleging unjust enrichment as IJL staff relied on a uniform, misleading script which informed prospective customers during initial interviews that IJL already had at least two matches in mind for those customers' first dates regardless of whether or not that was true.[254]

In January 2014, an already-married Facebook user attempting to close a pop-up advertisement for found that one click instead copied personal info from her Facebook profile to create an unwanted online profile seeking a mate, leading to a flood of unexpected responses from amorous single males.[253]

In 2013, a former employee sued adultery website claiming repetitive strain injuries as creating 1000 fake profiles in one three week span "required an enormous amount of keyboarding" which caused the worker to develop severe pain in her wrists and forearms.[251] parent company, Avid Life Media countersued in 2014, alleging the worker kept confidential documents, including copies of her "work product and training materials." The firm claimed the fake profiles were for "quality assurance testing" to test a new Brazilian version of the site for "consistency and reliability."[252]

A 2012 class action against ended with a November 2014 California jury award of $1.4 million in compensatory damages and $15 million in punitive damages.[242] operated a dating site for people with STDs,, which it advertised as offering a “fully anonymous profile” which is “100% confidential”.[243] The company failed to disclose that it was placing those same profiles on a long list of affiliate site domains such as,,,,,,, and[244] This falsely inferred the same users as black, Christian, gay, HIV-positive or members of other groups with which the registered members did not identify.[245][246][247] The jury found guilty of fraud, malice, and oppression[248] as the plaintiffs' race, sexual orientation, HIV status, and religion were misrepresented by exporting each dating profile to niche sites associated with each trait.[249][250]

A 2011 class action lawsuit alleged failed to remove inactive profiles, did not accurately disclose the number of active members, and does not police its site for fake profiles;[237] the inclusion of expired and spam profiles as valid served to both artificially inflate the total number of profiles and camouflage a skewed gender ratio in which active users were disproportionately single males.[238] The suit claimed up to 60 percent were inactive profiles, fake or fraudulent users.[239] Some of the spam profiles were alleged to be using images of porn actresses, models, or people from other dating sites.[240] Former employees alleged Match routinely and intentionally over-represented the number of active members on the website and a huge percentage were not real members but 'filler profiles'.[241]

Misleading advertising

Less than half of Internet daters are open to dating people of all races.[235] Consistent with social exchange and group position theories, Asians, Latinos and blacks are more open to dating whites than whites are to dating them. Of those who state a racial preference, 97 percent of white men exclude black women, 48 percent exclude Latinas, and 53 percent exclude Asian women. In contrast, white men are excluded by 76 percent of black women, 33 percent Latinas, and only 11 percent Asian women. Similarly, 92 percent of white women exclude black men, 77 percent exclude Latinos, and 93 percent exclude Asian men. 71 percent of black men, 31 percent of Latinos, and 36 percent of Asian men excluded white women.[236]

In addition, many sites require members to specify what sex they are looking for without having the option "both", which complicates things for bisexuals. Many sites also require members to specify themselves as "male" or "female", complicating matters for transgender people as well as some persons with intersex conditions.

Gay rights groups have complained that certain websites that restrict their dating services to heterosexual couples are discriminating against homosexuals. Homosexual customers of the popular dating website have made many attempts to litigate discriminatory practices.[233] was sued in 2007 by a lesbian claiming that, "Such outright discrimination is hurtful and disappointing for a business open to the public in this day and age".[234] In light of discrimination by sexual orientation by dating websites, some services such as and cater more to homosexual dating.


  • Some sites offer members to subscribe "blind", meaning that users have little or no ability to search or preview the available profiles before they pay the subscription fee.
  • Many sites make confusing or wilfully misleading claims to provide "free" advertisements. It might be "free to place an ad" (in which the users contact info is censored) but it's often not free to read and reply to the ad, or it's not free to retrieve those replies. The end result is a collection of abandoned profiles created by users who created the "free" ad before realising they could do nothing else for free; the user leaves, the ad remains.
  • For paying members, it is often unclear whether a potential contact has a full subscription and whether he or she will be able to reply. Some sites prevent a potential contact from even reading a paying member's messages unless the contact has also paid to subscribe. There are, however, a few established dating sites that allow non-paid-up users to reply to messages, especially internally focused sites where there is an expected disparity of income.
  • Some sites require that both the sender and recipient of messages be subscribers before any off-site communication or contact can be arranged, and will filter messages to remove email addresses, telephone numbers, web addresses and surnames. Subscribers who attempt to circumvent this restriction may lose their membership and be removed from the site.
  • Some profiles may not represent actual daters, but are "bait profiles" that have been placed there by the site owners to attract new paying members. Both and have received several complaints about this tactic. Some users spam sites with "fake" profiles that are in reality advertisements to other services, such as prostitution, multi-level marketing, or other personals websites. BBC and Kiev Post have investigated Cupid PLC for this issue.[226]
  • Even when members' profiles are "real", there is still an inherent lack of trust with other members. Married people seeking affairs will often pose as singles. In addition, many members misrepresent themselves by telling flattering 'white lies' about their height, weight and age, or by using old and misleading photos. Members can ask for an up-to-date photograph before arranging a meeting, but disappointments are common. Matrimonials Sites are a variant of online dating sites, and these are geared towards meeting people for the purpose of getting married. Gross misrepresentation is less likely on these sites than on casual dating sites. Casual dating sites are often geared more towards short term (potentially sexual) relationships.
  • Online predators find online dating sites especially attractive, because such sites give them an unending supply of new targets of opportunity for Internet fraud. A recent study, led by Dr. Paige Padgett from the University of Texas Health Science Center, found that there was a false degree of safety assumed by women looking for love on the Internet, exposing them to stalking, fraud, and sexual violence.[227] Some online dating sites conduct background checks on their members in an attempt to avoid problems of this nature but some don't. For those who had actually used online dating, 43 percent thought that online dating involved risk, although just over 50 percent did not see it as a dangerous activity. Media coverage of crimes related to online dating may also contribute to people’s perceptions of the risks of online dating.[228]
  • Most members are enticed to join dating websites with free or low-priced "trial" memberships advertised on many other websites. On sites which require credit card information to join at all, these trial memberships may automatically become full memberships at the end of the trial period and charge the full monthly fee, without any additional action from the member, regardless of whether the member has actually used the services or not.
  • Some members have expressed complaints about the billing practices of certain dating sites. In some cases, trial memberships that were canceled within the trial period were automatically re-billed even after canceling. To avoid these potential problems, some users have advised using a virtual credit card number which is offered by several credit card companies.
  • On any given dating site, the sex ratio is commonly unbalanced. A website may have two women for every man, but they may be in the 35+ range, while the men are generally under 35. Little is known about the sex ratio controlled for age.'s membership is about 58% female and 42% male,[229] whereas the ratio at is about the reverse of that. When one gets into the specialty niche websites where the primary demographic is male, one typically gets a very unbalanced ratio of male to female or female to male.[230] Niche sites cater to people with special interests, such as sports fans, racing and automotive fans, medical or other professionals, people with political or religious preferences (e.g., Hindu, Jewish, Christian, Muslim, etc.), people with medical conditions (e.g., HIV+, obese), or those living in rural farm communities.
  • There is some evidence that there may be a difference on how women online rate male attractiveness as opposed to how men rate female attractiveness. The distribution of ratings given by men of female attractiveness appears to look like a standard bell curve (normal distribution), while ratings of men given by women is highly skewed with 80% of the men rated as below average.[231] This shows women are genuinely more picky than men when it comes to online dating. It could also potentially arise from women assessing other profile characteristics besides appearance, like their occupation.
  • Consolidation within the online dating industry has led to different newspapers and magazines now advertising the same website data base under different names. In the UK, for example, Time Out ("London Dating"), The Times ("Encounters"), and The Daily Telegraph ("Kindred Spirits"), all offer differently named portals to the same service—meaning that a person who subscribes through more than one publication has unwittingly paid more than once for access to just one site.
  • In December 2010, a New York State Law called the "Internet Dating Safety Act" (S5180-A) went into effect that requires online dating sites with customers in New York State to warn users not to disclose personal information to people they do not know.[232]

There can be a variety of problems when using online dating sites.

User problems

The increased use of online dating websites and services, thanks to a greater sense of acceptance by the mainstream, reinforces the “hyper-casual approach” to dating through the large number of potential dates that arise, which can cause people to have a sense of “FOMO” (fear of missing out), thus choosing to enlist a speed-dating approach in order to cycle through potential mates quickly. Often, this leads to much more casual dates than would have occurred previously, mirroring “online job applications [allowing] you [to] target many people simultaneously—it’s like darts on a dart board, eventually one will stick”.[221]

Effects on dating

Recently, new online dating services have been created specifically for those living with HIV and other STI in an effort to eliminate the need to lie about one's health in order to find a partner. These website help to protect both parties involved in online dating.[225]

A problematic component of online dating is the ease of lying it allows for, due to the anonymity of the Internet. Many stories have involved someone meeting up with a new online partner, only to find they look nothing like their profile photo. Often, online daters find it difficult to balance “accuracy and desirability in self-presentation”.[223] One of the main processes behind social interactions include the packaging and portrayal of one's self to make favourable impressions upon others; online dating is no exception to this impression management. Individuals are concerned about how to present their own identity to attract partners, since they know their profile will be deeply scrutinized by others;[224] thus, they often try to display the best photos of themselves and describe themselves in favourable ways to portray themselves in the best possible light to attract the most number of people.[222] In one study, it was found that nine out of ten participants had lied on at least one attribute; weight was the most lied about attribute, and age was the least lied about. Often the lies are slight,[224] but these still illustrate the difference that new media has created in relationships.

Impression management is a large component of online dating profiles. In a 2008 study, many participants stated that they often found themselves scrutinizing over what to write in their description and private messages, often first composing the piece on a word processing document to ensure proper spelling. Participants reported explicitly considering how they would be perceived by others, deeply analyzing themselves in order to appeal to others.[222] This type of careful manipulation and scrutiny is made possible through modern technology—it is much easier to carefully plan out what you type rather than what you say.


Through the abundance of information on online dating profiles, as well as elsewhere on the Internet, people may already possess much superficial information about their potential partner's interests before talking to them, which may lead to a false sense of security when meeting up with a new person.[221]

Abundance of information

In an editorial post titled "Why you should never pay for online dating", a founder of free dating site criticized pay-dating as exploiting users and as "fundamentally broken", and noting that "pay sites have a unique [financial] incentive to profit from their customers' disappointment".[220] The post analyzed the business model used for pay dating and noted that it gave rise to "strange incentives [because] the only way they don't make money is to show subscribers to other subscribers." (emphasis in original)

Online dating sites illustrate how the modern world centers around a money economy, as individuals are in essence able to buy love. Although some sites offer free trials and/or profiles, most memberships can cost upwards of $60 per month,[219] and many individuals buy into the promise that these websites advertise: that they will find a user love that cannot be attained out in the real world. Thus, the main premise of online dating sites is to find one's "perfect match"—the person whom one will inevitably fall in love with and thus, spend the rest of your life with. In order to find this person, they use various questions, scales and polls to find someone who they deem to be compatible with you. For many individuals, this precise calculation of determining suitable matches offers an implied higher degree of success and eliminates the need to look for new relationships outside the home, consequently saving time and energy. Online dating sites have taken advantage of the modern individual's desire to save time in their hectic life in order to successfully commercialize their product in our capital-based society.

Pay dating business model

Following the introduction of online dating sites such as and, a growing trend of self-branding has sparked to compensate for the rise in digital connectivity. This developed from the new networked age of dominant technological behaviors as defined by Yochai Benkler's theory on the networked information economy. Based on Benkler's theory, the new networked information economy “has created new opportunities for how we make and exchange information, knowledge and culture” (Benkler 2).[213] It is from this new ability to be internationally connected by new forms of communication technology that this specific niche of the online dating service community came about and flourished. is an example of the effect of this international hyper-connectivity in which users all must brand themselves in a specific way to get whatever they are looking for; in this case, a relationship. It requires users to brand themselves as products that other users would potentially want to buy or more accurately get to know better based on how they market themselves differently than every other individual looking for companionship on the site. Adam Arvidsson outlines the methodology in which people must all separate themselves from one another but still be undeniably homogenized in behavior: “You need to stand out and be different while remaining compatible with everybody else” (Arvidsson 120).[214] Marwick argues about the effects of self-branding on the individual to cope with this need to market ourselves: "Self- branding, the strategic creation of an identity to be promoted and sold to others" (Marwick 166).[215] Branding is typically thought of as referring to the selling of a product,[216] when in this case of online dating it refers to the commoditization of an individual for gaining the attention of another for a possible new relationship. This poses ethical questions of how one can accurately portray one's entire personality and life experience into a set word limit. The Huffington Post suggests the importance of self-branding in the modern day "Everyone, whether you recognize it or not, already has a 'personal brand.' Remember, if you don't brand yourself, others will do it for you."[217] Self-branding defines who we are and who we want others to think we are. Linkedin recognizes the social rules of self-branding and its importance on online dating in which one must appear professional yet fun.[218]

Self-branding and its effects

A German documentary analyzed the market and uncovered multiple problems of online dating sites. Amongst them are "romance-scamming" (persons registering on the sites to get money from people falling in virtual love with them), using controllers or animators registered with multiple fake accounts, using unexpected and sometimes unlawful conditions in the terms and conditions leading to longer contracts a client intended to sign. In Germany government financed NGOs like "Verbraucherschutzzentrale" sometimes help to sue online dating sites.[212]


Research about social networking reveals that the online dating services driven by subscriptions offer the least amount of social networking opportunities. They often only utilize the personal homepage genre of online community, which only makes them effective for the bonding and encoding stage of the relationship.[210] The dating services modeled on the free-at-the-point-of-use model scored much higher as many of them utilized the Circle of Friends social networking method and a wider number of online community genres. The highest scoring dating service was Facebook, which uses the personal homepage genre, the message board genre, the weblog and directory genre, as well as utilizing the Circle of Friends. The second highest scoring, Second Life utilizes virtual worlds, message boards, chat groups and profile pages to allow people to contact in a three-dimensional environment. More recently, the impact of social networking on online dating has been featured on the Questia online research website peer reviewed article ""I Luv U :)!": A Descriptive Study of the Media Use of Individuals in Romantic Relationships"[211]

Social networking

Meeting strangers by these websites implies exposure to more or less important dangers.

[14] From the

Housing tourists and encountering

Somes websites are specialized in travelling for bachelors ( in France ; in Canada).[14]

Travelling and encountering

The language exchange website permits to find pen pals so as to improve general foreign language skills and to find new friends.[201] Taking part in a polyglotte café is also possible.[202] is addressed to those who want to meet new people worldwide.[203]

Practicing foreign languages and encountering

Some websites suggests to encounter during sport activities :[200] in France ; and in Canada ; in the USA and in the UK.[14]

Doing sport and encountering

In France, the website proposes hiking activities between singles.[199]

Hiking and encountering,[193][194] or[195] suggest to encounter over a meal ; on,[196][197] or,[198] encountering is not necessarily reserved for singles who search for their soul mates but also everybody who wants to widen the scope of their acquaintances.

Having dinner and encountering
Slow dating websites specialized per kind of outing/activity

[14] .· [192] · [191] · [190] enables the singles to meet from a common desired in the UK ; in the USA, [189] (for gays); [188] ,· [187] there are also in France [186] Furthermore, the outings websites can be romantic oriented: in addition to

[185] The leader in the USA is [184] .· [14]

Generalist slow dating websites : outing and encountering

etc.). Les-CoVoyageurs,, or love oriented ( « Slow dating websites » can be generalist (no mather the outing) or specialized in a kind of outing/activity (sport, restaurant, trip etc.) ; moreover, they can be friend oriented (like [184] Taking the time to meet in the

Slow dating

On the basis of charity dating where a celebrity charity auctions a date with her[180] · ,[181] the Belarussian website enables to sell a date to the highest bidder ; the money collected is then donated to charities[182] · .[183]

Charity dating

The websites ( and[179] in the USA) provide the subscriber with a pack of black cards he passes or makes pass to the one his heart desires in a party, in a café, at the restaurant or on public transport. The latter, by using the identifier on the card, will be able to consult the online message sent to her (invitation for a romantic rendez-vous, declaration of love). This way of approaching has the advantage for the subscriber that his choices are not limited to people registered on the OD websites.

A card for a romantic rendez-vous

There are some websites that offer to meet in an epistolary way ([178]

Dating by exchange of correspondence

These three-dimensional experience has reported more registrations from women than men. One explanation for this phenomenon is that virtual dating allows women to have complete control over who they select and how they interact. Virtual dating also eliminates large amounts of emails in women's inboxes and allows women to enjoy a friendly dating option.

Researchers at MIT and Harvard have found that "people who had had a chance to interact with each other (by computer only) on a virtual tour of a museum subsequently had more successful face-to-face meetings than people who had viewed only profiles".[176]

A Time magazine article entitled "Internet Dating 2.0" was published on January 19, 2007, citing current and upcoming technologies and explains how people can now connect in a virtual dating environment. Time describes how websites are allowing people to meet for an avatar based, graphically enabled virtual date without leaving their homes.[177]

According to Scientific American, virtual dating is "the next step in online dating" (Feb/March 2007, p. 35).[176]

Virtual dating combines online dating with online gaming. Virtual dating involves the use of avatars for people to interact in a virtual venue that resembles a real life dating environment. For example, individuals can meet and chat in a romantic virtual cafe in Paris or on a Caribbean resort. They can explore together, play games and take relationship quizzes to get a better, deeper understanding of each other. While online dating sites allows members to search on attributes such as education and income, virtual dating allows users to explore compatibility, sense of humor and rapport. Virtual dating sites include Weopia and Omnidate.

According to the model of the virtual worlds for gamers, some applications have been developed to enable singles to be embodied in an avatar and « meet » in a virtual space. In the 2000s, Prof. Michael I. Norton claimed that virtual dating could provide benefit in the assessment of one's compatibility with the other.[172] In France, an example is the Orange software Come in My World, seen as a mix of the OD service Meetic and the metaverse Second Life[173] · .[174] It should also be noted that some dating sim websites ( « dating simulations » ) claim to provide gamers with the oppportunity to make real encounters :, or even in France[14] · [175]

Virtual dating

Some websites ([170] in the UK and in France,[171] in Italy) are specialized in group dating, a blind date inside a group of bachelors. This way of dating, particularly developed in Japan, may be related to a mix of blind dating (dating between singles) and slow dating (group outing).

Group dating

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